Hosting the historic, first ever livestreamed Saturday Night Live,” Tom Hanks made a point in the opening monologue that many Americans have become acutely aware of.
“There’s no such thing as Saturday anymore,” Hanks said, speaking from his kitchen. “Every day is just today.”
He might have gone even further, pointing out that weekends have become endangered in the locked-down-at-home coronavirus era, as the days blurs together to vaguely different variations in a country sheltering in place.
“It’s this blurring of the delineation of Monday through Friday. People used to say ‘Thank God it’s Friday,’ But we have lost that sense of time,” says life coach and human behavior expert Patrick Wanis. He maintains that it’s important to take the extra effort to separate the weekend, or a specific time of rest, during the temporary lifestyle change.
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The Miami-based Wanis himself declines to take on non-mandatory work projects into the weekend to make those days special.
Others have moved weekly happy hours from bars to video chat. People are cooking in place of Saturday night meals at restaurants and trying to recreate spa experiences at home.
“You’ve got to create time to be calm, to be relaxed, to rejuvenate, to rest,” says Wanis.
Driveway parties and Zoom happy hours mark the weekends now
Across the country, Americans have done their best to celebrate the weekend in unusual ways such as a Eugene, Oregon socially distant weekend block party organized by Mary Lou Vignola and her husband, Frank, on March 21. The party featured tables and chairs set up on driveways as neighbors socialized from a socially appropriate distance.
“Glee” actress Becca Tobin, one of three members of the lifestyle LadyGang podcast, works to maintain her Friday ritual of cleaning the house in the afternoon as if she were going to have her friends over. And she still gets ready to go ‘out.’ “I shower, actually wash and dry my hair, put on a little make-up, jewelry, a cute outfit, and even shoes,” says Tobin. “I prepare a really yummy cocktail for myself and join my standing appointment with my closest friends for ‘Fancy Friday’ cocktails on Zoom.”
Fellow LadyGang podcaster Keltie Knight has been improvising on keeping her weekend foot massage or spa treatment ritual going at home. “I’ve been leaving my phone upstairs, putting a mask in my hair and having a glass of wine in the hot tub, and then getting out and slathering myself with delicious smelling lotion,” says Knight. “It’s almost the same.”
Actress Jane Seymour has dedicated her weekends to starting a new painting, a centering activity and her longtime passion. “It allows me to feel like I’m doing a reset. Leaving the previous week behind and getting a fresh perspective.”
The British-born Malibu, Calif. resident also carves time to cook a major meal on the weekend, which she shares with her fellow quarantine-r, her grown-son Johnny. During the time they think about family not able to attend. “It’s a good way to feel connected to family when we’re not all physically able to be together right now. And I know that Johnny appreciates all of the home cooking,” she says.
Cookbook author and mother of twoManuela Mazzocco keeps cooking at the center of her family-centered weekend routine, which she has worked to keep in place throughout California’s stay-at-home orders.
“Cooking is most fun when done in company, while chatting and working together,” says Mazzocco, who suggests small celebration enhancements such as popping open a bottle of something bubbly, playing music and setting the table with candles. “To make the weekend meal feel special and different, I start with a quick look at myself in the mirror and find what would make me feel special. A cute dress and lipgloss are all I need and what works for me.”